There is a way to be knowledgable, without being distracted.
I remember being a kid, always running around and doing something random. I was a very active and impatient child, and even today, I can’t say that I’ve changed much. I have this memory of being hungry and waiting for my food to be done cooking. I can’t remember what it was that I was eating, but I had put it in the microwave for a couple of minutes. My mom warned as I opened the door to take the food out that it might be too hot for me to touch, and that I might have to wait a minute. “Okay, ” I replied, still eyeing the bowl and hoping that it might magically cool itself down within seconds. Moments later I grabbed the bowl and rushed over to the table, feeling the heat in every layer of my skin. After setting it down, it seemed at first that I was okay, and then I started to feel the consequences. I would cry to my mom, “It hurts!” every 5 seconds, praying for relief. Of course, my mom gave me some ice to put on the blistering, red welt, which I did for about 5 minutes. I realized that I was still hungry, and that taking the shortcut did nothing to help me, it only made things worse. After taking the ice off my hand, I ate, and went about the rest of my day. I had forgotten about the welt until I mistakenly put it under hot water when I was washing my hands. “Ahh!”, I cried out in agony, “It still hurts!”.
Today, I wanna just share my experience about something that I’ve been personally going through in my life. At the end, you guys can tell me if you can relate to what I’m gonna say, or if you are struggling in a similar way. I’m someone who at times can be very self- aware. I try to be careful with my words so they don’t hurt people. I try to make sure that I don’t say something that would dishonor God. I try to even wipe the grumpy look off my face when I’m at the store so people don’t think I’m mean. I’ve realized a long time ago that I carry my experiences with me, whether they’re bad or good. Even if I am 95% over something, there’s still that small percentage of me that will cling to the 5% as though I want to be stuck in that same mindset of confusion and unforgiveness. Well, holding onto even the smallest piece of unforgiveness can lead to bitterness, which can also lead to the development of trauma. Now I know what you’re thinking, this is getting deep pretty fast, but trust me, I’m getting somewhere.
The absolute definition of trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. Another definition states that it is a severely disturbing experience that leads to lasting psychological or emotional impairment. On top of all of that, there are also three types of trauma that a person can experience in their lives: Acute trauma that can develop from one thing that happened. Chronic trauma, which is basically the same thing happening again and again as in cases of abuse. Lastly, there’s complex trauma, which involves more than one event, and more than two people hitting you on a personal level. The last one sounds like the worst that you could possibly experience, and I believe that many of us have probably encountered at least one of these in our time on Earth.
I talked a lot in my last article about my experiences with racism, and the way that a couple of people that I knew projected certain behaviors toward me that were not outwardly racist or prejudicial, but when I really evaluated it, I knew what it really signified. They stemmed from White supremacist and extreme Nationalist viewpoints that don’t make the U.S. look as pretty as its flag. This doesn’t mean that they were bad people, however, they were very mistaken when they put me under their presupposed “glass ceiling”, thinking that I would be there forever. I never talked to those people about how it made me feel when they said those things, so it ended up inside me, all welled up and ready to burst. It is only now in the present, that I’ve started to realize the effect it had on me, an affect that they will probably never fully acknowledge and understand. At the moment, I know that I am no therapist or psychologist, but it seems like I might’ve been experiencing chronic trauma this entire time. And it shows.
With all of the events going on in the world today, everyone’s viewpoints are out on the internet for anyone to see. I go on Twitter, people fight. I go on Facebook, people also fight. I go Instagram, and guess what? Take a wild guess. It all can be too overwhelming for my Spirit to handle. I love to fight for what I believe in, but I am also not extremely confrontational and like matters to be settled as diplomatically as possible. However, when I see people that I know and respect, speaking against the experiences of my people. Or when I see some of my friends, telling my people how they should feel or who they should blame for something that has been historically proven years before this. And when I hear people say that my people should get over what happened, and stop mourning the loss of the innocent lives that were taken in cold blood. It. Hurts.
So how do we move forward? I want to encourage anyone out there who is like me, that might feel like they can’t past or can’t get over a particular event in their life that changed the way they perceive and receive the world. The only way to truly heal from the deep wounds caused by those who have wronged us is by giving it to God. I realized this week that I need to stop worrying so much about how to change the people in my life, and keep giving how I feel about those situations to Him. I may not be able to open the eyes of people that I care about, but that’s okay. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling, whether it be betrayal, fear, or anger. It’s even okay to express that to them, if you’re comfortable enough. The important thing to understand, is that you are not alone. As the media continued to press into our brains, we’re all in this together. We each play a part in the future. We each have the power to help change it for the better. We don’t know what’s going to happen, but we know that we can help each other in the meantime.
We can still lift each other up in prayer, heal from these traumatic experiences, and block the sudden urge to @ someone every time we don’t agree with them. Most of the time, people won’t even pay attention to it anyways, and you’ll be getting your blood pressure up for nothing. It is in this way that we maintain a healthy, peace-filled spirit like the one spoken about in the scriptures. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as THE WORLD gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” God is just waiting to give us the peace we desire that we cannot get from the news or latest death rate from COVID-19. There is a way to be knowledgable, without being distracted. So anyways, I hope that this helped someone else out there, or many even just showed you that you’re not going through this rough time alone. Stay in the word, and let me know in the comments down below if you need prayer or support for any thing at all. Love you all so much, and I’m sure you will hear from me again soon. Xoxo.
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At least I never did this.